Please note:
All copy on both envelopes should have every word spelled out with no abbreviations.


Formal invitations are always slipped into an unsealed inner envelope to be placed inside the outer envelope. The inner envelope is addressed in a more informal fashion typically with only the title abbreviations and last names of the guest. This envelope includes the names of all invitees including children.

For example:

Mr. and Mrs. Estonia & Farrah, Gilbert, and Harriet
Mr. and Mrs. Holt

The outer envelope is where you write the recipients official title, full name and address. It is where tradition is upheld, decorum celebrated. This means no cutting corners with abbreviations. Every word should be spelled out.

Guests rely on the outer envelope to determine exactly who is invited. Please use the samples below as a guide to make this clear to your guests.

Addressed to a married couple:

Envelopes may be addressed formally or informally.

For example:


Mr. and Mrs. John Holt
1234 Benoit Road
Plano, Texas 75023



Samantha and John Holt
1234 Benoit Road
Plano, Texas 75023

Addressed to a married couple using different last names:
For a married couple, both names should be on the same line. Ladies are always first.

Mrs. Samantha Thuente and Mr. John Holt
1234 Benoit Road
Plano, Texas 75023

Addressed to an unmarried couple living together:

Like a married couple, both names should be included on the envelope, but in this case, each name gets its own line. Ladies are always first.

Ms. Rebecca Strecker
Mr. Joseph Hirsch
1234 Benoit Road
Plano, Texas 75023

Addressed to a same-sex couple:

Use the same rules as you would for any other unmarried or married couple however, names should be listed alphabetically. If the couple is married or lives together, list them on the same line:

Ms. Celine Elgin and Ms. Jacqueline Purcell
Celine Elgin and Jacqueline Purcell
On the inner envelope, use titles and last names:
Ms. Elgin and Ms. Purcell

Addressed to a married woman doctor or two married doctors:

If a woman uses her maiden name professionally and socially, the outer envelope should read:

Dr. Anne Barker and Mr. Peter Underwood
Dr. Anne and Mr. Peter Underwood

If both parties are doctors, you can address the outer envelope:
Drs. Anne and Peter Underwood

The same format is followed for other distinguished titles, such as reverend and honorable.

Addressed to children and families:

Younger guests can be included on the envelope of their parents’ invitation by their name(s) or “and Family”

Mr. and Mrs. Michael Abraham 
Daniel, Jeffrey, Brittany, and Kelly
Mr. and Mrs. Michael Abraham and Family

Addressed to children 18 and older:
They should receive their own invitations, although siblings over 18 can be sent a joint invitation, in which case the outer envelope should include their names alphabetically on individual lines:

Miss Audrey Abraham
Miss Lily Abraham
Mr. Jack Abraham

If you don’t include “and Family” or each child’s name, you’re implying that children are not invited. That said, don’t be surprised if some guests still mistakenly assume their children are welcome. If you’re concerned this will happen with your guests, ask your immediate family and bridal party to help spread the word that the wedding will be adults-only. In the end, you may have to follow up with guests who don’t get the message via phone to gently explain the situation.